Have you thought about New Year’s resolutions and why most of us tend to find excuses to either dilute or abandon them by the end of January? New Year is a convenient time to make some changes in life even if you don’t believe in making resolutions at year end. Actully, as long as we decide to do something and commit to it, it doesn’t really matter what month of the year it is. Statistically, we mostly want to lose weight or get fit, get out of debt or make more money, quit smoking or drinking, improve our relationships and spend more time with the loved ones. But are these solutions to what really makes us feel successful in life?
If all these are very common-sensical goals, how come “life” gets in the way and we find reasons to justify being busy and overwhelmed with everything else except working towards achieving them?
Our habits and beliefs are keeping us where we’ve been most of our lives. We keep doing what we’ve always done, and we keep getting what we’ve always got! We eventually move ahead, but at what cost? Our self-esteem and confidence usually fare not so well when we find reasons to compromise our dreams and desires. We tend to settle for less out of fear of failing again. We’d rather be comfortable than stretch ourselves.
But look at your successes so far. Every time you did something you’re proud of, like finished a degree, followed a diet, bought a house, developed a fulfilling and lasting relationship you actually stretched yourself, you committed, you changed your habits and beliefs, and you grew. How many of us have said after completing an exam, “Never again!” How about saying, “More!” More to work that feels like your life purpose. More to meeting people who uplift and energise you. More to living your life according to your own design. Sounds like a dream?
Don’t criticise yourself for having delayed action so far, refuse thinking about feedback from others as negative, and embrace fully what you can do right at this very moment. Make a start now and look forward. Everything that happens to us is feedback. People we associate with, how much money we’re making, our health, and what we think about ourselves.
Wouldn’t you want to know every day what you are working towards and that every step you take is leading you there? Wouldn’t you want to confidently say no to things you don’t want, and say yes to what you really prefer? Take stock of where you are at and celebrate your victories every day.
When you decide what you want you immediately get inspired to start working on it. The longer you stay the course, the more empowered you become to make the most of your life. What you want wants you! Your life is your success! Become crystal clear on what you want and how to get where you’d rather be. Get charged for the holidays and the year ahead, get inspired to recognise your true potential by writing down your wishes and goals. Be bold! Whether you call it a resolution or a solution, it is yours to enjoy becoming the person who can achieve it.